I am sorry for being sappy. Another relationship-related blog entry. (I promise, there will be more beauty related things to come…or perhaps a muay thai entry lol.)
But I was watching a video by Jovan (check him out if you haven’t! He makes really good vlogs about relationships and love.) This particular video was talking about long distance relationships. Now I have never been in one, but my brother has been in a long distance relationship for almost a year now.
My personal belief about long distance relationships is that they may work but it will take a lot more time and effort on both parties to make it work than a relationship where both parties are local. I think it’s because the chances of correcting a misunderstanding are much higher when you can see the person face to face right in front of you. Even across a computer screen, you can see the person but it’s different. (Those who have spent a lot of quality time on skype understand this.)
I skype with my boyfriend now and we live 30 minutes apart. It’s just more personal than talking on the phone at night cause we can see each other. Yeah we could just drive but we’re both busy and sometimes video chatting is better than nothing. But we make it up by hanging out on the weekends together. We sometimes take it for granted that we can say, “Let’s hang out Friday,” and it actually happens. It’s something that couples who live near each other can easily do; it’s one of the perks dating locally. If we get into a fight, we can sit down and talk it out and even try to explain it not only with our words but our body language.
But, there are plenty of couples that do date long distance. They have the extra obstacle of…well…distance. They don’t have the luxury of saying, “yeah let’s hang out this weekend.” Instead, it’s all about text messages, phone calls, and video chats. It’s in long distance relationships that communication becomes 100x more important. It’s because you can’t quite “hug it out” (like my boyfriend likes to call it.) There is no hugging, there is no trying to show the other person how you feel-the only thing you can do is tell them. This sounds a lot easier than it is. (Ask anyone who has “communication” issues in his/her relationship…) There are so many things that can go wrong with just telling the other person how you feel. Your tone, how you say it, and even when you say it could change the meaning of what you say to the other person.
For me personally, I don’t think I could start out in a long distance relationship. I have enough problems with communication